Happy Monday!
Whew! What a week this past one has been! We had the most amazing wedding to date on Saturday and God was present in every single aspect. Check out our Instagram feed to see what went down! (@tamaramenges)
As we mentioned last week, Mondays are now geared towards to beauty of marriage for the next several weeks, and today’s is about love, and it’s importance.
Image by Ruth Eileen Photography
A little bit of background about our relationship we met the summer before my freshmen year in high school, and Kason’s senior year. I will never forget looking up that fateful morning and locking eyes with a brown-eyed “older man” who was already looking at me. That moment is locked in my soul for eternity. That moment was the birth of beautiful story that God had already begun to write, and I pray continues to write for decades to come.
We have grown so much individually, but most importantly together in the time since that first look.
I could write for days on this post, but in order to keep it a simple read I would like to share a few ways of what love looks like to us:
- We pray together, a lot. Every morning and every night, and then a few times throughout the day. This is the most important thing we could do together. Our marriage is not just us two crazy humans, but includes the One who put us together, God.
- We strive to show kindness to each other, especially when it’s not easy. The way we speak to each other is huge in our home. We can get upset or aggravated with each other, even angry, we try to communicate it in a way that is not debilitating to our marriage. You can never take back what you say, so it’s important for us to be cautious. This isn’t to say we haven’t hurt each other with our words, everyone does. But we learn from it and move forward, and we certainly don’t raise our voice to each other. That accomplishes nothing.
- We are patient with each other. If I ask K to do something like take the trash out or pick up his clothes, I have learned over the years to do so and not expect him to do it immediately. However, when I ask politely and in a loving way, more often than not he’s very quick to get up and do it. (kindness+patience from person A= person B to be more willing to do whatever is asked) It’s basic math y’all.
- We have learned the art of the apology. Thankfully neither of us “just want to be mad for a while”. If we are ugly to each other (usually when one of us is tired or hungry!) we recognize it immediately and apologize, right there and in that moment. Then we also started saying 5 things we are thankful for a few months ago and have continued to do that which really changes our heart.
In the past 4-5 months we have realized that our marriage is our testimony and our opportunity to share God with others, and we don’t have to constantly be speaking His name. He is evident in our marriage through the way we treat each other in our actions and our words. We pray for our marriage to be a light for Him, to radiate His love, and to be for His glory because we know without Him we wouldn’t have a marriage, or a story that started so many years ago.
“Love never fails” 1 Corinthians 13:8
xoxo, Tamara